I’m not sure if you can tell, but in the center of this
giant rocky formation, there is a small tree growing. My friend and I stopped to look at this
wonder. He, like me, is a metaphorical
kind of thinker, so we had a grand time thinking about the symbolism inherent in
this bit of nature. But I’ve thought
back on this picture so many times, I decided to share.
As you are probably aware if you are my FB friend, I’m home
with the flu. Of course the whole world
doesn’t know, or my whole school, so I received a wake up text at about 7:30
this morning from one of my favorite English teachers. He was texting to let me know that one of my
kids was not in class. I have an
agreement with a couple of teachers about a few of my special case kids. If they are not in class first period, I get
a call or text. Then I begin the process
of tracking them down.
This particular student has come to hold a pretty special
place in my heart…who am I kidding…lots of them do! But this one, he is something else. He is a lot like this little tree bravely
growing from a rock. He shouldn’t be
growing at all. He has no soil and no
water. No nurturing gardener or regular
rain. He lives in his dad’s house but
rarely sees him. He lives alone. His dad pays the main bills, but he has to
come up with money for food, clothing, gas, and school needs. No one checks to make sure he is up in the
morning or that he has eaten a good breakfast or that he gets to school on time
or even if he has clean clothes. The
only people he really has are a few buddies who aren’t in any better
shape. And together they have gotten into
a lot of trouble over the years.
But something changed this year and he’s begun to work and
to care about school. He sees the possibility
of graduation in the distance, and he wants it.
Unfortunately, the pattern of his life and choices have not landed him
in a very good place to achieve the goal, so he is having to relearn. And change is hard. He’s trying to get caught up on credits and
maintain passing grades. He’s a smart
kid. But suddenly, he’s trying to keep
up with homework and deadlines that he never cared about before. That is a tough change to make.
And if that isn’t enough, there are adults in his life whom
I work with every day, I’m ashamed to admit, who would very much like to see
him fail. They are like a strong
Panhandle wind gust trying to blow him over.
They look at him and see a thug.
They see a kid who has been in and out of gangs. A minority.
A kid who has had his share of trouble with the law. A kid who doesn’t particularly care for
authority. And why should he? Most of those in authority in his life have
let him down in some way. Why should
teachers be any different?
But for some reason, against all odds, he’s growing.
He shouldn’t even have survived this long. He’s a little bitty sapling trying to sink
roots into a rock. But like this tree,
he’s learned some things about survival.
He’s learned that if he’s going to make it, he has to do it
himself. He’s learned that fighting isn’t
always the answer and that working a job is far safer than some of the other
options for making money on the streets.
That’s why losing his job a few weeks ago has been so devastating. He came right out and told me that there are plenty
of ways for him to make money, but he wanted a job. For the life of me, I can’t figure out why
kids tell me these things. Things I’m
better off not knowing.
Today he wasn’t in first period, so I texted him. His reply was that his mom had a heart
attack. So he lives on his own with no
parental support. Provides his own basic
needs. Goes to school. And is making a ridiculous effort to graduate. And now his mom, who has very little contact
with him, has had a heart attack, and he was expected to step in and be the
adult. Again. And he did.
I offered encouragement and let his teacher lifelines
know. Then he texted to let me know he
was about to leave the hospital and head to school. Really?
Where does that kind of resolve come from in a kid whose roots are
growing into rock? Why is school
important today?
Maybe it’s the safest place in his life. I do know that
while there are a few wind bags who don’t want to see him succeed, there are a
few of us who do. His English teacher
waters him. His math teacher tries to
shine some light even though he resists.
His homeroom teacher provides shelter by making him clean up his
language and be respectful so he doesn’t get in trouble. And his counselor tracks him down when he
doesn’t show up to class and makes sure his roots have a little soil.
None of that makes up for a lifetime of trying to grow out
of a barren rock. But I’m hopeful, that
like this little tree, he’ll keep growing.
Everyone has the ability to be the water, the sunshine, the shelter,
or the soil. But everyone also has the
potential to be the wind.
2 comments:
WOW!! Just said a prayer for this young man and for his awesome counselor.
Thanks Karen. That's one of the reasons I love you. There are lots of little saplings in the garden of rocks where I work.
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